... What is a HUD?!
... What is a HUD?!
Tech companies are building them for all manner of things, but society at large has been living without active use of their built-in, real-time, evolutionary HUD; emotions.
UPDATED: 2021 APR 26 12:40 Pacific (WIP)
PROVERBIAL “WALK THRU” example for using our HUD!
(until the graphic is created, here it is in text)
Becomes more accurately (when using your HUD):
“this icky feeling I am feeling is telling me that as I focus on my own perception of the immorality of THIS, I am making myself unhappy by ____ degree, and that if I continue to focus in this way, I will only continue to feel bad, and worse, and worse...”
Which becomes an opportunity (when using your HUD):
“Thank you HUD for letting me know I have an unfavorable (as in, doesn’t make me HAPPY!) prejudice in this matter!”
Gratitude is always a great first step in feeling better!
Followed by (when using your HUD):
“How can I perceive THIS which will feel better to me?”
(When truly using your HUD, when open and reaching for the thoughts which feel better, you may be at first surprised to realize the answers literally ‘come’ to you when asked.)
The first immediate answer/thought:
“I am not doing/saying/thinking THIS immoral thing, and I do feel better recognizing that it is not me doing/saying/thinking THIS.”
Once you start to feel that… relief, that loss of tension or loss of anger, or loss of outrage, these are HUD given signs that you are mentally in range of even better feeling thoughts and perceptions.
It becomes natural to ask again, more specifically:
“What about THIS itself? How do I feel better-“
Sometimes, your answers will tell you that you don’t WANT to feel better about a given subject!
(A) This is usually true, and
(B) it doesn’t have to be true.
Alas, if you feel strongly about (a), your next step is to let the subject go altogether and think of something else. You can always come back to it later. Feeling a gut-reaction against reaching for a better-feeling thought is a telling sign you’re not ready to re-align your mind and heart on such a thing because (C) in some way you’re enjoying having your negative emotions about it, or (D) it’s been thought so much it has become a belief, not just a thought, and now you have other thoughts about the implications of changing that belief. Only when you’re over (C) enjoying the ick (for what ever reason, though usually self-righteousness), or (D) ready to re-assess your beliefs, will you feel the proverbial open door allowing you to ask again:
“How do I feel better about THIS immorality specifically?”
(The answer comes): “Mans laws of morality have changed over time, but inside we have a sense of “right” and “wrong” internally guiding us by feel, “this feels right,” "this feels wrong,” and THIS feels wrong to me. It is enough to know it is immoral to me, and that I won’t think/say/do it. I have no control over other individuals so I will not spend my energy in such an effort. I will instead live as the example I want to share, and freely speak my moral path when asked.”
If you’re thinking “But it’s NOT enough.” Than you’re probably still under the mistaken belief that big change happens through external forces. “If I push to have this law passed which supports my belief, that is real change!” LOL and it is. However, that course of action simply opens the door for you to be further aggravated when you notice people breaking this law you so carefully had put in place! How dare they! You will be in an endless pursuit of controlling others, something you do not actually have the power to do, not with all the armies of all the world… as history has continued to show us.
I remind of people like Gandhi, and Malcolm X, and Dr. Martin Luther King, who wanted these big changes to happen but knew it cannot be forced (because force begets more force.) They changed themselves and were living examples that others couldn’t help but to follow, and those others changed themselves and lived on as further examples… and in these examples, in these historical cases, there came a tipping point where enough people changed themselves that the external change was seen to happen too, because it became naturally inevitable. These are the lasting changes.
Don’t take my word for it; Learn to discern for yourself.
It "pisses me off" when my twin insists on tactlessly blurting out her perspective of things without regard to other people's perspectives of what she is saying.
Even knowing their emotions on any subject are related only to their own perception of the subject, I prefer the gentle approach because I believe people can absorb the information better.
A sun-shower nourishing verses a hurricane destroying first, and nourishing what is left.
So, when using my emotion HUD, I realize that when I get "pissed off" at my twin for this, it is really my HUD telling me my perspective isn't making me happy. I may be getting "pissed off" at her, but it really isn't her I am mad about.
You say: "But she is the one carelessly blurting!"
And I say: "Yes, but I cannot control her, only myself and so my anger tells me I can improve myself by improving my focus of this situation toward a perspective I can feel good about."
You ask: "How?"
My first answer is: "Practice."
It takes practice to immediately recognize your HUD and use it. In this example, in order to improve my own perspective of my twin and her blurting, I think to myself she is the proverbial ripping off of the band-aid, and some people actually prefer it that way. Since neither she nor I have the capability to immediately read a person and know what their preferences are, the important thing is that she feels good being her, and I feel good being me; our differences are natural and have their place in the world. Man does that make me feel instantly better!
Sometimes I despair that my twin doesn't seem to care enough to... (enter any number of things I wish she would do/say which would give me the feeling she cares.)
She admits to having had the same feelings of me, and in that, we were able to really identify that the despair comes from our own perspective, and not from whether the other person actually cares or not.
When using my emotion HUD, I realize when I despair about my twin not caring enough to... what I am really despairing about is that my personally formed expectation of care being shown in X-Y-Z way isn't being met.
When I use my emotion HUD, it makes it easier to then realize and ask myself:
(a) Do I think X-Y-Z is some universal law of caring that everyone inherently KNOWs and some people just choose to ignore?
lol, seems ridiculous...
(b) Do I think I can change my perspective to allow for different manners of showing care? Seems way more reasonable of a rational being, doesn't it?
Makes me feel better to think it too.
So I think to myself, my Twin DOES care enough to... (and I list all the things I can think of which my twin does, which I mostly don't do), and I am humbled to realize if we all showed how we cared in the same ways, the world would become very boring and the value of those signs of caring would become less in the numbness we get from consistency.
Again, my emotion just notifies me of my own perspective of things, and I choose to keep that perspective or change it, to feel better or feel worse.
Sometimes I feel totally wall-struck and suddenly flabbergasted when my twin and I have fundamental differences in perspective; literal do and don't differences.
No matter what it is, I recommend reminding yourself that if we all said 'I do' to the same things, we'd be the same person. Our differences are what makes us uniquely us, and our similarities are how we connect.
When using my emotion HUD, I realize my reaction to her opposing preference really helps me decide if my preference is flexible. The stronger my negative reaction, the less flexible my preference is in the moment.
I could keep reiterating the same points, but the truth is, you're the only one feeling what you feel or knowing which feelings give you the most satisfaction and joy.
FOCUS ON YOU.
Be grateful when someone helps you define yourself by offering you that contrasting moment, that emotion you didn't like but made you pay attention to what you were thinking.
Let it go, whatever it is, if it's not helping you define what you want and you're just upset or mad about it, because that's just building momentum for the thing you don't want.
LET IT GO!
Finally, if you remember nothing else, remember that we related to Peter Pan and his band of kids doing impossible things because they weren't just brave, they were happy.
Kids like to be happy, adults want to be happy,
so choose the thoughts that feel happier!
It's that simple.
Living a happy life is attainable, being happy 99% of the time is attainable, being “high on life” is attainable, and all are sustainable with your HUD!
Remember, every 15 seconds you spend on a thought and feeling the more open that proverbial door to similar feelings and thoughts (good or bad, favored or not) so our HUD is vital for helping us be aware of our own thoughts!
(A) Am I enjoying or am I not enjoying?And
(B) Do I want or do I not want?
"Many roads lead to the Great Path.
Only the willing will find their way."